Question: if your boyfriend went to a party, didn’t answer your phone calls at 4am, called around 4:45am to say he was on his way home from his homeboy’s house…how many of you would believe that?
Relationships are difficult, and even more so when you’re faced with situations like this. Obviously it just happened to me. I was furious when he got home but didn’t actually show it. I had gotten a little faded my damn self and was too dizzy to really do anything that night. Just let him crawl into bed, wrap his arms around me and pass out. I thought I smelled perfume when he walked in but then again, he was just at a club right?!?!? So the next morning I got up and went to work, still feeling some kinda way. Called my girl as I headed to court to get a second opinion. She didn’t believe he would do something like that to me, in other words, cheat on me and come home and lay up as if nothing happened. I wasn’t so sure. He sent me a text saying he was sorry and did I forgive him. Forgive you for what I asked. He said he didn’t know but he knows I’m feeling some kinda way about something. I said if you were 100% honest with me then you have nothing to apologize for. He called. So the story goes…after the club they all went to eat and back to his homeboy’s house for more drinks. It was about 6 guys, and 3 girls. He claims not to have known the girls. After the midnight snack, 4 of the guys went to the dude’s house along with the 3 girls. He claims he didn’t call to give me a heads up because he knew that I would have asked a billion questions and he would have looked like a simp in front of his friends. Allegedly 1 dude got his dick sucked. He claims to have had no contact with any of the chicks. Now do I believe him or not?? I did believe him but it lead to a discussion of why he should have called versus why he didn’t call. I will admit that I would have asked many questions and it probably would have upset the rest of my night thinking about what could happen. Is he justified in not calling? If I believe nothing happened should I let it go without incident? We’re not married so I try to make it as easy as possible for us to stay as close as possible. If he feels like I’m going to bitch and complain about every little thing I will never get the ring. But am I selling myself short? How bad was his decision not to call? I told him that I was very worried and was just about to call 911 or the highway patrol, who knows what could have happened to him. This is LA baby…ain’t nothing out but the devil at 5am.
Anywho, the situation is behind us now. I’m over it. Any thoughts??
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You have to let it go. There is no way to prove what really happened, so unless you are going to leave him, just put it out of your mind. Don't be like me and dwell on the situation for weeks to come, that really makes it worse. (didnt you give me this advise before?) Anyway, weigh the goods with the bads. Not calling is NOT the worst thing he could have done. So if youre not going to leave, the only thing you can do is be sick and move on.
I agree with Summer, if you have no proof just let it be. BUT I also think it's important when these things arise to simply ask the man, "Would it be cool if I didn't call you in the same situation?" No arguing, no interrogation, no stress...just a simple question that deserves a simple answer. I like to remind a guy that if certain behaviors are excusable for him (this concept is not to be applied to cheating though!), then those same things can and WILL be excusable for me as well. ;)
Nikky is right...reverse the tables and see if he likes it...he may see where you are coming from if you do it that way... and then just leave the situation alone
Drop it, not worth arguing about... if he did do something and you were at the house waiting on him then he will do something and get caught trust me......you can't be everywhere all the time and when he's out.... long as the shit don't come back flying in ur face what you don't know won't hurt you!!! plus you'll never know everything even the best guys do stupid ass things.........
Damn I hope my woman lets me kick it till 5 am with some girls. Grown men still worry about their boys calling them a simp? Guess i go against the grain cause my niggas can call me what they want, but i WILL be getting home to my girl! Just forget about it now big lil sis!
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