HITW

For those of you who don't know what this means, it means HEAD IN THE WHIP!! For those of you who still don't know what this means, get off my page! I just wanted to know, has anyone ever been caught giving it?? What are you suppose to do if someone sees you? Are you suppose to stop? More than likely his D will be rock hard and won't be able to fit back into his pants. Do you expose the D or do you stay down there and finish what you started?

Ho Fa Sho!

I recently was asked, "what is a ho"? Before I get to casting stones let's really dissect this for a minute shall we. I don't think there is one clear definition on what exactly makes one a "ho" because I think we've all done things that may be considered behavior which more likely than not manifests whorelike tendencies. For instance, some may say that sex on a first date or first encounter is "ho-like"! or maybe sex with numerous partners? sex for money, drugs, dinner or coats? sex with a married man/woman? sex without condoms? sex because you're bored?? who freakin knows where to draw the line. I think being a "ho" has more to do with your intentions than your actions. Let me explain...so let's say you've been single for awhile and you meet a well to do guy and you talk on the phone for a week or so and you finally decide to go out. You guys go to dinner and movie and end up at your house having "coffee." One thing leads to another and his body starts calling for yours. Long story short the panties come off and you find yourself knee deep in the D. You guys eventually become bf/gf, marry and live happily ever after. Are you a "ho"? Now look at it this way. You've been single for awhile and you've been going on dates with different men. One in particular has more money than the next. You go to dinner and a movie and end up at your crib. You know if you fuck him you'll continue to get the niceties. You have sex and send him on his way. Are you a "ho"? Let's say you're broke and call up a guy and have him take you out. Over dinner you share with him your financial status and he offers to give you some money to help you get on your feet. You end up at your crib and you have sex. He leaves $500 on the nightstand. Are you a "ho"? Let's say you've been going thru a whole lot of shit and find yourself calling your married ex. You guys go to dinner and he tells you he's not happy. After 5 martinis you find yourself at your house. One thing leads to another and the panties come off. Are you a "ho"? Let's say to go out with your girl in search of a man. You pick out the one who just dropped a grand at the bar. He's not very cute, actually he's ugly. You don't care. You accidentally bump into him and spark up a conversation. You exchange information. You see him later that week and you let him hit it. Are you a "ho"?
Now there are some things which one can do which would put them in the "ho fa sho" category, well at least in my opinion. If you fuck 5 different people in the same week, you a "ho fa sho"! If you fuck 2 different people in close proximity and swallow on both, you a "ho fa sho"! If you fuck for 10 dollars and a hit, you a "ho fa sho"! If you have more than 2 potential baby daddies, you a "ho fa sho"! The list goes but I'd like to get your thoughts on what a "ho fa sho" is.............
My thoughts are, to each his own. Everyone must live with the decisions he/she makes. No one else can determine how you feel about yourself. Maybe you're a "ho" maybe not! Whatever you decide, make sure its your choice and live with it.

If there was a picture in the dictionary next to the word "ho," who do you is the prototype??

Sex with an Ex....

A little sumthin sumthin...

So Ne-yo seems to believe that sex with an ex is a good idea...what do you think? Should you leave it all in the past? What if it was the best sex of your life?? Can you do it regularly and not get attached? Is it worth it?

Long time coming...

I know its been awhile y'all and I'm sorry I fell off the wagon. Been going through a lot of shit and I just didn't have any inspiration. The vision was clouded by tears and feelings of hate and regret. But I'm slowly coming out of the darkness and am ready to talk about life, love and the pursuit of happyness!

So I recently talked to a friend of mine whom I hadn't spoken to in going on 10 months. A little background...we have been friends for 24 years and slowly but surely grew apart and were just on two different pages! The last time we talked it had something to do with one of her boo's calling me at 2am talking about he coming over! WTF!! I ain't never talked to the boy on the phone nor does he even know where I freaking live. But I guess that was the last straw cause I never heard from her again! Got a text on my 29th birthday wishing me the best! Ha! It seems like I woke up one day and realized that we were headed in two completely different directions. I would talk about the folks I met and these fabulous events and she would talk about baby einstein and first days of school. I had no problem listening to what was going on in her life but she didn't seem all too concerned about my life. Anywho, we stopped talking completely and I didn't know how I felt about it. When I ran into her we exchanged greeting. She then proceeded to exclude herself out of the group discussion. I was a bit perturbed but whatever! I then called a friend of mine, a spiritual advisor of sorts to ask him what to do. He told me not to miss out on my blessings because she wants to be evil. So I took up a seat next to her and broke the ice. Asked her how she had been and the conversation sored from there. It didn't skip a beat and it felt like old times again. Not sure what happened to cause us to separate but glad that we talked. 24 years is a long time. Will it ever be the same I'm not sure, only time will tell.

So here's the thing, how do you know when to let a friendship go or when to make amends! If you grow apart does that mean you are forever separated? If you are on 2 completely different paths in life is it possible to be genuinely happy for the other's successes? I've heard a saying that people are in your life for one of 3 things, reasons, seasons or a lifetime. How do you know who plays what role? Why does it seem easier to forgive a lover than a friend? Do we expect more from our friends? Is that a fair expectation?

So tell me folks, have you ever regretted losing a friend?