Which side of the table are you on?

So peep game. I need some input from my once 10 now probably 7 loyal readers. I had an interesting experience with a man a while ago. So I am in NY for a couple days and I hit a friend of mine to let him know I was coming to town. A little background...have known this dude for around 3 years. Have seen him all of 4x. A whole lot of cyber flirting but nothing ever panned out. Not even a kiss. Met him at a bar, went out to brunch the next day...a dinner date and club night a year or two later which brings us to present day. Now I cannot confirm who initiated the lunch date but in my mind that doesn't play a huge role. So we had confirmed lunch and I then remembered that I had told another friend of mine, a lady friend, that I was gonna spend some time with her. So I decided to kill two birds with one stone. I invited my home girl to lunch with me and him. THEN I asked him was it okay and GAVE HIM THE OPTION of lunch with both of us or me alone the very next day. He opted for lunch with the pair. She was 45 minutes late and in the mean time we ordered and had begun eating by the time she got there. He had to get back to work so he asked for the check. Now, I didn't assume one way or the other whether he was going to pick up the entire check or not but what I did assume was that MY lunch for sure was getting paid for. NOPE. So he tells me that he can just leave cash for the bill so we could still hang out. So he slides me some money and I didn't really look it but I knew it looked thin. So once he left I picked up the money and not only did he not pay for my home girl, he did not pay for my meal and he only left 30 bucks for his portion which was 25 plus tax and tip. Boy was I heated. So I immediately texted him "ummm yeah you didn't even leave enough money for your tax and tip. thanks for lunch"! To which he responded with "you've got to be kidding me, you can't be serious" and it all escalated from there. At some point he asked whether I always invited friends and expected them to be fed at which time I told him that I didn't expect him to pay for her or me for that matter but the fact he shorted us for his own meal told the whole story. Not paying for her is one thing. If one felt used then I could see them pulling that move to make a statement. Now whether he thoroughly thought about the statement he was making is quite another story. So this is how I have analyzed the situation. Ok so he is very flirty with me and had even recently discussed how great he thought the two of us meshed and was interested to see what would come of a union between us. So I KNOW that if I said the words, or moved to NY, or just opened the door to something more serious, he was definitely on board but the reality is I hadn't opened the door yet and this is evidenced by not even have kissed the boy yet. I say all that to say I would definitely consider us just friends. So expecting to pay for my girl was stretching it but I REALLY AND TRULY didn't expect him to (kinda had a hunch) but honestly I was interested in seeing what he was gonna do. Sidebar, he's a very well off lawyer and remember this was lunch. Okay so we've gotten over not paying for the home girl. Now MY MEAL is another story. I 100% without a doubt expected him to pay for my lunch so in that sense I guess you can definitely say that I was moded, scratch my neck and all that. What if I was broke and didn't have it, that would have been funny!! So okay he doesn't pay for my meal. Now he leaves 30 bucks for tax and tip on a 25 dollar meal (he claims that he meant to leave 40 bucks). My calculations say about 2 - 2.50 for tax and about 4 bucks or so for tip which roughly calculates to about 31 - 32 bucks!! Okay so now one might think well it was ONLY 2 bucks and really, if it was a ""and he meant to leave 40 (which would have been ample for HIS meal)... was it really that big of a deal??? YES IT MUTHA FUCKIN WAS!! It is what the whole situation implies! One, it says you're CHEAP. I don't do CHEAP. It has CHEAP written all over it because if you were planning on giving 40 and some kinda way it ended up being 30 that means you was paying too close attention (where one might think he wasn't paying attention at all)...I feel he was looking and thinking waay too hard about how much and what he was gonna give and blah blah and ended up shorting nobody but HIMSELF. Had he not made the "mistake" I couldn't have gotten upset (rightfully) and would have just had to chalk it up to the fact that I haven't even kissed this guy and maybe he believes that girls should put out to get fed or maybe he realized that there was no sexual chemistry (at least on my end), who knows! Anyways, he had to know that NOT paying for my meal has consequences though RIGHT??? I would never date someone who didn't pay for my lunch in the beginning of a courtship and yes muh fuckas I said courtship! I think it is proper and MANDATORY to court me. Now courting ME is all relative. If your money is funny but you are stable and standing on YOUR OWN 2 FEET but don't have a whole lot of extra then you find ways to impress me by other means. A single rose. Lunch at the park. Coffee and book browsing. Walk at the beach. You get the picture. But meeting me for lunch and not paying for it is a little crass and especially when you DO have it like that it SAYS a whole lot. And what I heard on that afternoon was KICK THIS MOOMOOFUKU TO THE CURB and keep it pushing. Any thoughts??